"Who all gon' be there?"
The holiday season is officially upon us!
And for a lot of folks, this means they're traveling home for some good food, quality connection, and plenty of reasons to smile. For others, it can spark feelings of angst and dread.
There are countless reasons why these negative emotions may arise. Maybe there's that one topic you don't want to get into with grandma (again), or perhaps there's a certain family member - or a few - who always know how to push your buttons.
If you're already cringing at the thought of naviagting family dynamics, keep these tips in mind:
Set Clear Boundaries: Before your visit, take some time to reflect on what boundaries you need to establish. Communicate these boundaries clearly and assertively to your family.
Practice Self-Care: Make self-care a priority. Whether it's bringing along your crochet tools, reading a book, or simply saying "no," be sure that you are honoring yourself along the way.
Stay Connected: Reach out to close friends and support people who understand your experiences. A quick call or text can provide a much needed pick-me-up.
Prepare for Difficult Conversations: Anticipate topics that might come up and think about how you want to respond. Having a plan can help you feel more in control.
Use Affirmations: Reciting positive affirmations can help you stay grounded in the midst of chaos. Remember: You are enough. You are whole. You are loved.
Limit Alcohol Consumption: Alcohol can sometimes exacerbate stress and lead to greater conflict. Consider moderating your intake to stay clear-headed.
Take Breaks: It's okay to step away if you feel overwhelmed. Find a quiet place or go outside if you need to breathe and regroup.
Move Around: Physical activity can be a great stress reliever. Some yoga or a quick walk can help clear your mind and reduce anxiety.
Practice Mindfulness: Mindfulness techniques, such as deep breathing or meditation, can also help you stay present and calm during stressful moments.
Seek Professional Support: If family visits are particularly challenging, consider speaking with a therapist. They can provide strategies and support to help you navigate these interactions.
Your well-being is most important! By keeping your needs at the forefront, you can enjoy the holiday season while staying true to yourself.
P.S. Yes, asking who's going to be at the function is ABSOLUTELY a form of self-care becasue, let's be honest - the guest list can either mean, "Oh, it's gonna be that kind of party!" or "Oh, it's gonna be that kind of party..." Either way, knowing what to expect can help you better prepare all around.
Love and light, always.
Black Girls Need Sun
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